I see these words –‘HELP YOURSELF BEFORE YOU HELP OTHERS’ as the most important words in life, simply because it’s by helping yourself first that you can ever be able to help anyone else.
I learned this the hard way. I used to think that helping others before helping my-self is the ‘right’ thing to do. And this perspective made me suffer a lot. But then, later, I learned the truth. And the truth is, that in order to help others, you must help yourself FIRST!
You can help others become happy only if you are happy.
You can help others become successful only if you are successful (would you listen to a person who is a failure himself, but talks about success? I seriously doubt it)
You can teach others only if you are knowledgeable (teaching others something that makes no sense to you won’t work)
You can give others only what you have. A sad person can only give sadness to people around him since that’s what he has.
Your job as an individual is to work on yourself, to put yourself first, so you can become happy enough, wealthy enough, successful enough or ( ) enough (fill in the blanks)
You can surely give a poor person 20 rupees out of your 100 rupees. But if you have only 20 rupees, and you give the whole thing away, you didn’t make any difference. You didn’t make the poor person rich. You just made yourself poor. The situation didn’t change. It’s worsened.
So make it a point to help yourself first, to work on yourself, to educate yourself, to become happy and successful yourself, so you can share with others what you have.
And the beauty of sharing is that the more you share, the more comes back to you. But you must have something to share in the first place.